Don’t Tell the Groom



  • 1 in 3 brides won’t let their future husbands make any decisions
  •  1 in 5 brides fibbed to their fiancée about the cost of something at their wedding
  • Just half of grooms decided on their bestman or groomsmen without their fiancée’s input



BRITISH grooms are being cut out of wedding planning and aren’t trusted by their future wives to make decisions on their own, according to new research.


A survey of 2,235 UK adults, carried out by One4all, the Post Office gift card, revealed bossy brides are taking full control when planning their big day, allowing very little input from their fiances.

More than 1 in 3 (35%) brides weren’t willing to let their future husbands make any decisions whatsoever without them, showing that it’s not just bridesmaids who are bearing the brunt of bridezilla behaviour.


Just half of grooms made the decision on who they had as a best man or groomsmen without any input whatsoever from their fiancée, suggesting British brides are dominating even the most personal decisions for the groom.


Meanwhile, only 50% of grooms had a say on who attended the wedding and contributed to the guest list.


The decisions that brides were least willing to let the groom make were what the bride wore, who the bridesmaids were, the flowers, the cake and the décor.


As well as taking control when it comes to planning the big day, British wives-to-be are hiding the truth about what they spend, with 1 in 5 admitting to having lied about the cost of something they bought for the wedding.


37% of those who had lied said it was the cost of the wedding dress that they kept from their partners, while 1 in 4 said they had fibbed about the price of their shoes.


After the dress and shoes, the things that brides were most likely to lie about were the hen party, accessories such as jewellery and hair and make-up.


Despite brides taking the lead and deciding how budget is spent, the research found that the tradition of the bride’s family footing the bill is dying out – 23% of married couples say they paid for their wedding themselves, while 11% of groom’s parents contributed to the wedding either equally or more than the bride’s.


Aoife Davey, marketing manager at One4all Gift Cards, said: “It’s interesting to see how modern newlyweds are planning their nuptials, and how the majority of the decisions now sit with the bride.


“Weddings are traditionally all about the bride, and still are to some extent, but now that grooms and their families are investing financially in the wedding, it seems only fair that they should get some say in what happens on the day and who attends.”


It’s not just the tradition of who pays for the wedding that is in question, the data found just 51% of grooms actually ‘popped the question’ to their brides-to-be.


Davey added: “There are wedding traditions that some in modern society might deem old fashioned and that’s ok, but it’s important to remember that it is a special day for both the bride and the groom, and therefore both should have equal responsibility for making decisions when planning the wedding.”


Brighton is home to the most controlling brides in the UK, followed by Plymouth and Norwich.


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